Austin and I spent the 10-hour drive home from Kansas this summer trying to figure out how we were going to make this RV lifestyle thing happen. After 10 hours of talking in circles, we ended up frustrated and ready to throw in the towel.
It was time to slow down and evaluate WHY we are pursuing this lifestyle.
Looking for an escape
There have been times in this process of pursuing RV life that I have found myself frantic, like that car ride home from Kansas. I run circles in my mind trying to figure out how to make it happen- NOW. But every time I have felt that way the answers just don’t come. It has caused me to slow down and really look at the reasons I want to live the RV lifestyle.
I have felt like a horrible mother, choosing mind-numbing activities like scrolling social media and watching TV over spending time with my children.
I have felt a strong dislike for my children at times, imagining a life where I didn’t have to take care of anyone and could do whatever I please.
I have struggled to find the balance between self-care and other-care, leaving me feeling inadequate and exhausted.
I KNOW that this is influencing my frantic pursuit of something different. And I KNOW this is why it hasn’t all fallen into place quite yet. I realized that I had to be choosing this lifestyle for reasons other than an escape from my current life.
Why choose the RV lifestyle?
When I dig deep and start to unpack the layers of this desire for something different, I always end up in the same place. I end up with a God-given desire to live a life of FREEDOM. I do believe that God has placed this desire within my husband and me, and I also believe that His timing is perfect.
When I feel frantic and hurried, frustrated and stubborn, I have to turn to God. It is then that I realize that his plan is greater than my need for escape. It is then that I realize that I can’t ever escape by leaving because I will still be there. I can’t escape myself.
The good news is, I don’t have to live in an RV to work on myself and change how I am living my life.
When I really look at my desires, frustration, and impatience, I am usually left with the question, what am I actually pursuing?
By evaluating my reasons for wanting an RV lifestyle, I can choose to live differently where I am right now.
The main reason for living a full-time RV lifestyle is to have more time as a family. Austin and I long to be working together, homeschooling together and raising our kids together. But, instead of lamenting that we don’t have enough time together and that Austin has to work too much, I can make better use of our family time NOW.
I am still unpacking what this all means for me on the daily, and I will share more in an upcoming post.
Another big reason for the RV lifestyle is less stuff and clutter. The minimalist lifestyle has appealed to me for a long time (since the dawn of the tiny house movement). I feel less anxious and more creative in spaces free of clutter and STUFF, and the research backs up the reasons why.
The good news is, this can be accomplished anywhere and in any size home. Does a small home keep you accountable to living with less stuff? For sure. But living minimally is a mindset and a discipline, and I can work on that right now.
There are many more reasons that we are pursuing an RV lifestyle, but they all boil down to one word: FREEDOM.
Freedom has to do with choices I make every day. Freedom is the result of daily habits and discipline. Freedom is not something that will magically appear when we move into an RV. And so it is for this reason that I am focussing on choosing the habits that free me today and lead to more freedom in the future.
3 Steps to Living the RV Lifestyle (whether or not you own an RV)
Step 1: Evaluate your top 2-3 reasons for wanting to live in an RV. Examine your motives and be honest about what you believe will be different about your life. Beware of “when [blank], then [blank]” syndrome. As in, “WHEN [we are in the RV], THEN [I will be happy].” Instead, focus on things you can do TODAY to be happier in general.
Step 2: Implement what you can in your life RIGHT NOW. Life passes us by when we live the “when…then…” mindset. If one of your reasons is to see more of the country, then start NOW. We live in Colorado and there are so many places IN OUR OWN STATE that we haven’t visited. Get out and do what you can where you are. If you want to live small but have a big house- live in less space! Clear out rooms and stop using them. Give yourself permission to have empty space- you might be surprised at what happens!
Step 3: Find your adventure. If you have kids, you know that even the most mundane experiences can light up their world! Take note! Opportunities for adventure exist in every day! Seek it out and I bet you will find more than you knew was possible.
Finding my escape
Yes, we are still planning to move into an RV and yes, it is frustrating when things aren’t happening as fast as we want them to. But now I know that the freedom I am looking for can be found no matter where I am. I just need a little bit of mindset and a WHOLE LOTTA JESUS.
So, what mindset shifts would help you live the life you are longing for? Share in the comments!
As always, thanks for reading,